20th Anniversary • Revised & Expanded Edition
Finding a Man Worth Keeping
Become a Woman Worth Finding, Choose the Right Man, and Build a Love That Lasts
What if finding the right man isn’t just about being chosen—but about learning how to choose wisely?
About the Book
Being chosen isn’t the ultimate goal. Choosing wisely is.
Finding a Man Worth Keeping is the completely revised and expanded 20th Anniversary Edition of Victorya Michaels Rogers’ Christian relationship guide, updated with more than 12,000 new words for today’s dating world.
Whether you’re dating for the first time, tired of relationships that go nowhere, starting over after divorce, or wondering how to recognize a genuinely good man, this practical guide helps you date with greater clarity, confidence, and wisdom.
Drawing from fifteen years of dating, nearly thirty years of marriage, decades of relationship coaching, and biblical principles, Victorya shares ten practical Secrets for becoming a woman worth finding—and recognizing a man worth keeping.
This isn’t about playing games or figuring out how to make a man fall in love with you. It’s about becoming healthy and confident in who you are, trusting God with your future, and making wise choices about the men you date.
Choose Wisely. Love Confidently.
Three foundations for lasting love.
You can trust God with your future while also learning to make wise, confident choices in love.
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Become a Woman Worth Finding
Your worth does not begin when a man chooses you. Grow in faith, confidence, emotional health, and purpose while building a meaningful life today.
02
Choose the Right Man
Chemistry can spark a connection. Character determines where it leads. Learn to recognize character, red flags, healthy boundaries, and genuine commitment.
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Build a Love That Lasts
Falling in love is easy. Staying in love takes a foundation. Build yours on friendship, shared faith, emotional maturity, and real commitment.
Dating Has Changed. Character Still Matters.
Date with greater clarity, confidence, and wisdom.
Recognize Character
Get clear about what you really want in a husband, distinguish preferences from non-negotiables, and learn to see beyond chemistry.
Spot the Red Flags
Recognize unhealthy relationship patterns before they become lifelong regrets and learn when wisdom says it’s time to walk away.
Set Healthy Boundaries
Develop emotional, physical, and spiritual boundaries that protect your heart without closing it to a healthy relationship.
Navigate Modern Dating
Approach online dating, texting, social media, mixed signals, situationships, and commitment with greater discernment and confidence.
Reality Is Your Friend
You don’t have to settle, panic, or rush.
You don’t need to settle because you’re lonely, panic because you’re getting older, or rush because everyone else seems to have found someone.
You can include God in your dating life without sitting around waiting for Him to do all the work. Wisdom means praying, paying attention, recognizing reality, and making healthy choices.
It’s always better to wait for the right man than to rush into marriage with the wrong one.
Finding a Man Worth Keeping combines candid stories, biblical wisdom, practical coaching, and journal prompts to help you examine your own patterns and move forward with clarity, purpose, and hope.
The Finding a Man Worth Keeping Collection
Read it. Study it. Live it out.
Start with the Book. Explore ten relationship Secrets through practical teaching, candid stories, biblical wisdom, and personal journal prompts.
Go deeper with the Bible Study. The official 11-week Small Group Bible Study Companion Guide brings the principles into Scripture, reflection, prayer, journal review, and honest group conversation.
Make it personal with the Journal. The companion Journal gives you dedicated space to reflect, write, pray, and work through what you’re learning as you move toward healthier relationships and wiser choices.
Use the resources individually or experience all three together with friends, a church group, or women’s ministry.
Meet the Author
Dr. Victorya Rogers
Victorya Michaels Rogers
Victorya Michaels Rogers writes about relationships, friendship, and spiritual growth for women seeking lasting love and purposeful living.
Academically, she is Dr. Victorya Rogers, DMin. Her doctoral research examined the impact of female friendship on the well-being of single mothers, research that continues to inform her writing and work with women.
For two decades, Finding a Man Worth Keeping has offered women practical dating discernment and relational wisdom. This completely revised and expanded edition brings that message to a new generation navigating relationships and commitment in a changing culture.
Victorya is also co-author of the 25th Anniversary Editions of How to Talk About Jesus Without Freaking Out and The Day I Met God, and founder of Thrilling Life Publishers.
20th Anniversary Edition
Become a woman worth finding.
Choose the right man.
Build a love that lasts.
You don’t have to figure out love on your own. Learn to recognize character, trust God with your future, and make wiser, more confident choices about the men you date.